Ironically I can even apply this thinking to matches of the Civilization game. In general I don’t do war if I can avoid it, I enjoy just expanding my own country and trying to focus on science and culture. But whenever some country declared war on me, I would defend myself and then move on to invade the aggressor, because I saw conquest as the only way to “win” a war. And then I would think “it’s so unfair that every other country now hate me just because I took some cities from the country that attacked me out of the blue”.
Then one day I lost some war and the other country didn’t take any of my cities. They declared war not because they wanted to conquer me militarily, but because they wanted to stop me from dominating the world in other ways (culturally for example - something I saw as pacific but that also allowed me to win the match and therefore caused others to lose)
Ironically I can even apply this thinking to matches of the Civilization game. In general I don’t do war if I can avoid it, I enjoy just expanding my own country and trying to focus on science and culture. But whenever some country declared war on me, I would defend myself and then move on to invade the aggressor, because I saw conquest as the only way to “win” a war. And then I would think “it’s so unfair that every other country now hate me just because I took some cities from the country that attacked me out of the blue”.
Then one day I lost some war and the other country didn’t take any of my cities. They declared war not because they wanted to conquer me militarily, but because they wanted to stop me from dominating the world in other ways (culturally for example - something I saw as pacific but that also allowed me to win the match and therefore caused others to lose)