

I’m not the person you were originally conversing with, but I appreciate this comment. I really relate to what you describe. If someone was to look over my profile now, they’d see someone who is broadly quite helpful and wholesome in their interactions. However, my default mode used to be “abrasive arsehole”, both online and in-person. Even besides the impact that had on other people, it made my head an unpleasant place to be, and so I put a lot of work into changing that.
It took a while (and I still sometimes slip into my old ways), but it gradually got easier, and I’ve found that I’m way more likely to have productive and meaningful discussion with folks online, as well as having the wisdom and restraint to step back from negative stuff. I think it’s especially tricky online, because it’s so easy to end up getting pulled into negative stuff, and it can feel like it’s impossible to have good faith discussions online. I don’t think that’s true — however, online communication does demand we put extra effort in if we want to avoid slipping into those harmful patterns.
I’m glad to see that you’re working on it, and I wish you luck in your quest.







I can’t imagine that it would ever have enough impact to reduce their population significantly