I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anywayEnglish
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    5 days ago

    Yeah my parents:

    explicitly told me they’re giving me nothing

    told me they’d give my hypothetical grandchildren something because (and I cannot express to you enough that they explicitly stated this OUT LOUD WITH WORDS) that they would love the grandchildren more than me. My mother has talked to me at length about how she already likes these people that don’t exist more than me.

    Are constantly critical of my appearance. When I tried to wear makeup as a child they didn’t want me to look “promiscuous” (because somehow using an SAT word makes it ok to tell your 10-year-old they look like a whore). My mother was constantly critical of how short clothing looked on me because I was so tall or how my chest looked in shirts because it was too big. Now that I’ve gotten those tits removed and I dress more masculine even though I never even really “came out” as anything because I just don’t care enough about gender that’s also not ok because I’m not acting my gender.

    They don’t comfort me when I’m upset. They either tell me I’m upset about something stupid or say that I should be worried about more other things. I worked in Healthcare while in nursing school through the first half of COVID them graduated mid-pandemic and every time I’d mention stuff about how broken our Healthcare system is they’d want to have a “fun debate” about MAGA shit then make fun of me for getting emotional. One time I was sitting suicide watch because a guy kept ripping the ventilator mask off and begging me to let him die. The only thing that got him to keep it on was me summing up the plots of the last five books I read because after the first four hours I ran out of things to talk to him about to keep him distracted. Y’all. They thought my PTSD flashbacks were funny.

    My parents are both rocket scientists but they’re not sending people to the moon or Mars. I don’t know how they reconcile a belief in Jesus with arms dealing but I’m pretty sure those dead Palestinian kids are paying for my nursing degree.

    Anyway I unloaded the exact content of all those PTSD flashbacks on them, told them their voting choices were going to lead to them dying in a ditch full of maggots, then dumped all the shit my whole family talk behind each other’s backs in the groupchat and changed my phone number. Its been a year and I haven’t felt the need to drink since.

    Love me? You don’t even like me. Die alone, assholes.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•Tired of hearing about “The offshore team”English
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    7 days ago

    I have a sneaking suspicion that a lot of it is legal, and most of the borderline cases I personally encountered were years ago when I worked for the state. It was less prevalent when I worked for a major university hospital but they had really good HR that were offsite (not buddies with department managers) and well trained in the legal aspects so whatever nonsense they were pulling was always above board. The most egregious ones though, and the ones you’ll read about when they make the news, are the nursing homes, which is work I’ve never had the stomach to do. Now I’m working in a small inner-city hospital, so most of their staff abuse is just against local poor people who aren’t going to find anywhere that pays more.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•Tired of hearing about “The offshore team”English
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    7 days ago

    It’s similar in nursing. They keep bringing over nurses from the Philippines, Nigeria, Ghana, and Jamaica (to keep the list short) and they’re great coworkers but a lot of their contracts would actually count as human trafficking on the same questionnaires our ERs use to screen patients. They’re working in conditions that were misrepresented or straight up lied about with monetary and legal penalties for breaking the contract such as tens of thousands of dollars or loss of their green card.

    The employers are doing this to get employees who will be too afraid to report unsafe working conditions for both them and their patients. In psych I see a lot of international nurses who did not realize how utterly violent the average US homeless substance abusing psych patient can get (well except for a few who did high acuity psych back overseas; we had a Nigerian coming from forensics who knew what was up). A lot of them come from other specialties like onc or renal and wind up in psych because it’s an easy in and wind up waaay out of their depth with no easy way out.

    The fact that this abuse exists to depress my wages at the expense of everyone involved (them, me, AND the patients) is just… Idk. I almost want out but it’s what I’m most skilled at and I can’t imagine doing any other kind of work but the conditions and pay have just steadily worsened the longer I work.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoMemes@lemmy.ml•Big lie, starter pack
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    2 months ago

    You know this is the recommended stance when deescalating violent psych patient because it keeps your hands visible (as in, not hiding something) and in front of your body / face in case they start swinging. I’ve never really felt comfortable doing it though and this kind of explains a possible reason why. I actually had a guy the other night who asked why everyone else was scared of him and I didn’t seem to be. There were probably a couple other reasons though (I’ve dealt with waaay wilder men, and also he mostly struck me as young, dumb, and loud, and dumb in the young sense not in the cognitively not there sense). But as far as this pose idk it just always seemed really patronizing to me. I usually stand more like One of these where at least one hand is on the neck or side of the head. Usually with my hands overlapping but my fingers not intertwined so they’re easy to separate and throw up in front of my face but not overtly defensive.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstomemes@lemmy.world•Humanity saved
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    4 months ago

    Honestly I just wish it would apologize less maybe its my strong autism genes from both parents but I don’t understand how people prefer that I just ain’t got time to read about how sorry it is every time I just wanted a slightly different answer and it didn’t understand the way I phrased it the first time. I’m not mad ffs sometimes it even takes a few tries to communicate with a human I’m not gonna blame a toddler-aged computer algorithm for not knowing what I meant when I say whatever dumb shit I’m saying today.