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  • You would have to get a grinder and basically grind them out and refill them and paint over them. It’s pretty hard to get rid of it because it’s oxidation so it’s creating a new chemical compound with the material that the good is made of. I’d probably just get a sander, sand it down to where most of its gone without putting a depression in it, and then paint over it with two or three coats of paint. Then wait a year, sand it back down and paint over it again if it starts to flake, but if you sand it down well you probably won’t have to worry about it again. Not a huge deal, having rust on the frame can be bad though.


  • The number who will be accepting of it is probably like 15% or so. This is the amount of women who identify as bisexual, which probably is about the same as women who view feminine men as attractive. It really depends. If you are feminine but still masculine in ways, you might actually have the majority of women liking you. I am a very andro guy for example when I guy mode and also fairly attractive and nearly half of women I meet show some interest in me although usually not knowing that Im actually trans. If you are decent looking and take care of yourself. Eat well, wear sunscreen outside, things like this. However when you are doing it in a very open sort of way, half of women just won’t have attraction and probably 2/3rds of the ones who do will be too afraid of the social ramifications to actually admit they like you and pursue it. You can also be andro without being very girly. A guy wearing a skirt is kind of weird. You are better off actually growing your hair out and leaning more into one side of the other. Either be a pretty guy, or a pretty girl. You can do both on different days. You can mix them in ways but you have to have a good eye for it. Things like skinny jeans, nice cut shirts, long hair, shaving your body, jewelry, women shoes, these types of things can fit well into a more masculine style. If you are wearing a skirt though you should probably be looking more like a girl then a guy in your face and stuff. At that point you probably want to dress mostly fem and maybe incorporate some guy style into your style if youd like. Tshirts, beanies, hoodies, skate shoes whatever.

    Regardless that is still tens of millions of people, your chances aren’t impossible. Women don’t care about this stuff nearly as much as guys do. They don’t feel as awkward about it. Most women who have a strong distaste of it are probably on the dumber side anyways. They will make bad partners. They are also probably gold diggers and stuff. Those traits tend to run together. Also as we move into the future it’s only going to become more common because humans are naturally fairly bi and gender fluid by nature outside of the conditioning and gender ideology pushed by some people. Feminine men are honestly just superior in nearly every way to modern male styles and it will keep coming back. Men dressing the way they do is a very modern concept. Outside of the Middle East and Arab cultures men didn’t even like having beards or anything. It used to be a sign of laziness and trashiness. Men nowadays are pretty insecure about their masculinity. They drive around in rich people trucks and live lifestyles of extreme wealth, and play video games and work in offices, and stuff and so they project their own insecurities onto other men. Most men who are actually manly men don’t give af about someone being gender fluid or anything. It’s really the spoiled ones who are like that. Women mostly don’t like it because of physical attraction, and because many women idolize the idea of being a housewife and marrying a rich man who will take care of them and stuff. I know none of this has anything to do a guy dressing fem, but many people are really dumb and they think those things are linked. They never really consider that a man who is fem is incredibly brave and value and principles driven. They are very likely to be someone who actually takes care of someone. To be a good husband. There is also just that so many people, especially women fear that a man being fem is going to doom him to poverty, and women tend to weigh things like earning potential strongly in mate selection.



  • I am similar, I grew up with a great deal of that and I barely ever use it for my kids. I actually have a fair bit of trauma and PTSD because my father was an alcoholic and very mean. I never use it anymore I did a little when they were toddlers to get them to do stuff like not pee in the bed, to not leave trash laying around, to not be disrespectful. I had a severe concussion when I was raising them in that phase and I couldn’t handle the yelling because it would trigger massive migraines. I understand most people who use it do ruin their kids with it, and most people who use it are really trashy parents who are arrogant and have bad morality, but really the point in trying to make is that it’s very healthy for a kid to learn how to deal with the emotion of fear and to experience it a bit. This is something the modern world doesn’t realize as much. It helps them to focus. It’s a very narrow window of course. Fear is a strong work and don’t want you to think that I mean your kid should be terrified of you, but they should learn to have respect to feel a bit of consequences to get past that basic part where their higher mind can take control. Their fear needs to be able to calm their mind. I think of it as two pillars that lean against each other creating an arch, your positive and negative emotions. That is a really complicated way of saying, the only thing spanking is good for, is to teach a kid to stop, think, and listen, anything beyond that is abuse imo. You really need to talk to them and explain, not just preach, but back and forth about why something is right or wrong. Tell them about your life and what you have to deal with. Ask them what they think. Ask them how they feel about it. Let them be honest, let them have autonomy where you can. Being safe and respectful is important but beyond that you don’t own your child and your child doesn’t need to be molded by you as a parent. They need to bloom into their own type of flower. That is what actually makes them a highly motivated person.

    It works good for me because I completely support my kids autonomy. I want them to have their own style, their own desires, their own preferences, I want them to be themselves. I don’t police their sexuality or what video games or movies they can watch. What clothes they can buy. I do forbid them from some things of course. Hanging out with people who do drugs is one example. I will talk to them about these things in an adult fashion. I will challenge them and ask them questions about why they are doing something, and ask them to tell me how it makes people around them feel, how it makes them feel. It’s not that they should live their life to please other people, not at all, but to be aware of how their actions affect others. To be aware of other people’s pain and limitations. Talk is best, a respectful adult conversation as equals. A conversation as a friend.

    You never want to use physical punishment anymore then you have to, because your child will come to see the world through the lens of a victim. They will never really develop an ability to take pride in themselves and stand up for themselves and to chase their own dreams. Survival becomes their only true friend when they learn to hide themselves from the world.


  • I mostly agree except for the initial phase of teaching a kid to listen and control themselves. The part of the brain that forces them to sit still and focus doesn’t really develop imo without some fear. I wouldn’t at all advocate for beating your child, but when they are young a little spank sometimes that isn’t that bad seems scary as hell to them. It’s very effective to get them to learn to listen, to stop running around, that sort of thing. After you get past that point you can talk to them, it’s much easier. Also you have to talk to them afterwards so they know you aren’t being mean, but need them to learn to control themselves and not let their emotions take over all the time. If you do it well, you won’t have to do it but a few times. Not intensity, but as little as possible, just so they know that they can’t get away with it. A kid has almost unlimited energy to fight and yell. It’s not good for you, and it’s not good for them. It’s not really normal for an animal to never have any fear. The brain isn’t supposed to work that way. Yet also it’s not good to abuse them obviously. Some people are kind of bad parents and they will use that as an excuse to avoid doing what they should for their kids, like cooking healthy food and stuff. When kids arent eating well or are trapped inside all day they also get restless. That is not the time to be spanking. The one time where spanking is appropriate is simply to make them realize that they can’t just ignore you and walk on you, and that they have to actually talk with you when you are serious. Talking is the part where they learn. They should just learn fear. This will make them depressive and lazy and resentful and psychotic.



  • DarkAri@lemmy.blahaj.zonetomemes@lemmy.worldnever lost
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    17 days ago

    You wouldnt get so mad if it weren’t true. Your built a psychological wall to protect your sense of self. If you want to be happy you have to do things like sleep well, and obtain independence, not mess with your brain chenistry, and become an adult. If you dont, you will just stay trapped in that mindset forever instead of living life and being happy. I didn’t figure out how to be happy until i was 29. I had to abandon all of my defense melanisms, my ego, and listen to my heart. Follow only what i knew to be true. Eventually I did become happy.

    You dont need meatonin to sleep. The more you tell yourself things like that the more you will believe it and the harder it will be to get back to reality. Also just so you know, when you dont sleep enough you mitocondria oxidizes and destroys your cells. This affects you intelligence and your higher thinking. You night just have to take my advice until you can get your brain healthy and understand that what in saying is true. That starts with, cutting out the drugs, the meletonin, getting a job so you have a routine and can sleep once a day, and then, after your brain becomes healthy, or as it is becoming healthy, you can aork through you brain and fix it by thinking and understanding, and you can become independent. Take care of yourself. Have pride in yourself and follow your dreams.






  • DarkAri@lemmy.blahaj.zonetomemes@lemmy.worldnever lost
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    21 days ago

    For me its the opposite and you are only waking up like a 5 seconds to hit snooze, you fall back asleep instantly. You might find yourself going to bed 30 minutes earlier or something but who cares? I dont fight sleep so that helps. I really enjoy my sleep. I also enjoy the morning time now because im super comfortable for like 30 minutes before i go to work as my mind slowly wakes up.



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    This is a very easy problem to solve, set an alarm 30 minutes before you wake up and snooze it three times, and then you will be awake by the time your actual alarm goes off. If that doesnt work increase to 45m-60m. This way you get to go back to sleep several times before you have to get up. Lets your brain cath up to capitalism. Those 10 minute gaps between snoozes end up feeling like 20-30m each.


  • Whether you are even capable of learning stuff depends entirely on your genetics and epigendtics. Only a few students in any one area will ever retain much knowledge. The thing that actually determines how well your society becomes, tends to be things like how happy the childhood of your citizens are. Very few people ever seek knowledge long term within a healthy lifestyle. School for most kids is just a way to babysit them while the parents work long shifts for corporations.

    The tragedy is the kids in south korea hardly get a childhood at all. They stay in ultra competative schools during the day, only to be shuttled off to cram schools in the evening. They are not even human beings in the eyes of their own parents. They exist soley to fullfill the dreams of their parents, which is to hopefully work hard enough to become some executive for one of the seveal corporations that almost completly own the South Korean Economy.

    Many of these kids, like many in South Korea will grow up to be massivly depressed alchoholics and workaholics. Never having much of a life beyond serving their managers. This comes out in several ways in the character of Koreans. Many of them are incredibly dark people. Thats why media like the squid games is so popular over there. Behind the venure of a very productive and industrious society where most forgo almost all of their individuality, never even having a childhood. Behind it lies so many incredibly dark and deeply depressed people traped within a virtual prison of wealth and status.

    People like this would maybe end up ruling the world, given they work so much, and so hard, yet with their childhood also dies their soul. Their creativity dies, their dreams die, their human spirit is deminished in the hell they create and call progress. The parts of their dna that make them human, slowly whither away under hyper corporatism. Just like everything else in their society a child is nothing more then property. An investment by corporations. A robot that is as equally bland as it is numb. Never does anyone in a society like that actually consider that maybe they dont have a right to dictate every little aspect of their childs life in order to promote what they believe a child should be. So those that feel, those that see deeply the lights in the city nights. Those that see beauty. They die away as the human race regresses day by day.

    South Korea has always been a deeply disturbing place to me. A place that is truely inhumane, yet such a beautiful place as well. Behind every woman who looks likes a flight attendent, and every man wearing a suit or dress clothes, is a society which has almost no creativity and soul. No individualism. No happiness. No relationships. Everything is about efficency, everything is about materialism. All the money in the world doesnt matter if you don’t get to fall in love with someone, and have dreams, and watch your kids play and be happy. What is even the point of life it is nothing but work, followed by a few hours a drinking before crashing out for the night, and starting it all over again?