How did I end up on NCD again?

I’m a be real, I didn’t know I needed to know about the models of water fountains I see in public spaces but now its tickled my autism and I just need to know more. Big water fountain got their money’s worth I think…

As someone who somehow managed to never get hooked on drinking soda, it baffles me how expensive soda is

It was always a challenge for me in gym class because they’d detail “here’s how to swing if you’re left handed. Here’s how to swing if you’re right handed. Now remember no practice swings!” And I’d just have to try it both ways to see which way I do slightly less badly with while classmates jeer about “weren’t you paying attention, you only swing that way if you’re left handed! Why are you switching hands?!”

Probably partly because the writing system is oriented for right-handers. You’d have the entire section of the desk under the page providing support whereas for a left hander in a right-handed desk (especially the ones with comically small writing surfaces) your hand is literally hanging off the edge, especially when writing a bulleted list or shorthand notes. We also have to raise our writing hands a bit when writing to avoid smearing which further hurts ergonomics

When I was in school it varied by classroom. Some classrooms were all desks like that (some with a larger writing surface, some with that useless one) some had the kind of desk you can store stuff inside (some with attached chair and some without), some just had tables and chairs. Oh and the chairs were a weird mix too. There was one variant that had a lower lumbar support that as a very boney and skinny person just pressed straight into a couple of vertibrae in my spine and was painful to sit in for more than 30 seconds

But without fail, any classroom that had these desks including a left handed desk or two would have it in the furthest back corner so it was always taken up by a right hander who would try to disappear in the back, not participate or take notes and would refuse to trade desks with you

You clearly haven’t experienced the average person who thinks ketchup is a bit much and black pepper is too spicy

I’ve found my body is similar. Sweet spot for me seems to be about 7 hours consistently or a mix of 6s and 9s as they roll in.

I’ve also learned that I can do 6 hours for about 3 nights in a row and no more than that.

Whenever my kids let me sleep like a sane human I might become more consistent with my sleep

Oh I absolutely agree that there’s so much absolute trash packed with far more sugar and other overabundant calories than should even be allowed in processed foods. Like it’s genuinely incredible how much sugar is in everyday items to the point that I look at the nutrition label on literally everything because holy crap why is one slice of bread 10% of my daily sugar budget?!

The reason my comments focused so hard on health problems affecting weight is that most people who have pretty bad diets have some idea that their diet isn’t good, and most people who don’t excercise know that they probably would be healthier if they did. But those who do engage in fat shaming whether intentionally or not usually do so because they don’t realize how many health conditions basically disconnect ones bodyweight from their lifestyle (and that some of those conditions generally take years of doctors appointments to actually diagnose, in part paradoxically due to fat shaming doctors)

Oh and in my small friend group and family, I’ve had 6 with whom we’ve discussed their struggles with weight or their weight loss journeys and of them only 2 saw real impact by diet improvement

You might think you’re “offering health options” but in reality it’s just unsolicited advice which no matter the subject is almost always unwelcome at best and counterproductive at worst.

It’s like if I told you to backup your computer or run a virus scan on your computer. Yes it’s good advice for good maintenance tasks on any computer but you know just how likely those tasks are to fix whatever you’re dealing with on your computer at this moment, and if that’s advise you really needed you need much more information than is provided to actually meaningfully use the advice. If your unsolicited advise is only a sentence long, it’s too vague to be useful to someone who needs it and to anyone else it’s unhelpful and belittling to assume they don’t already know that.

TL;DR “offering health options” is a form of fat shaming

the reason people are fat is diet and lack of physical activity

only eats one meal a day, tons of salads, walks multiple miles but never sees his weight change

Calories in/calories out would have a couple of my friends looking like skeletons. I’ve seen their lifestyles up close and theyre healthier than I am. There’s simply more to the story than just diet and exercise. Many autoimmune diseases, and other incurable and/or chronic health conditions directly cause weight gain/prevent weight loss.

Or put another way, I’ve weighed about 120lbs the entire time I’ve been an adult, whether my diet was 90% poptarts and candy (I wish that was an exaggeration) while doing no exercise at all or a super whole dairy and veggie heavy diet combined with regular varied excercise. If I can be entirely incable of gaining weight while doing everything that should make me a balloon, why isn’t the inverse possible?

Nobody ever worries about the health of the skinny person because they’re skinny and therefore healthy. Nobody ever worries about a fat person who’s gotten skinny because obviously they’re getting healthier (never mind if they’ve got an eating disorder and are on the verge of suicide. They’re skinny now so theyre totally healthy!)

Stop trying to educate fat people about their moral failing and maybe listen instead to what their lived experiences are

You might not have an eating disorder but some people you know might. Many people with eating disorders don’t know that they have them or even convince themselves that they don’t even when provided obvious evidence that they do.

Fat shaming just tells people they only matter if they’re thin, and doesn’t discriminate between healthy weightloss and eating disorders that could kill them. Fat shaming just makes the world less healthy because it encourages disordered eating and poor relationships with food.

The new semiglutide drugs have only been on the market since about 2019, and in the best cases members in the study only lost up to 30% bodyweight (and real world data that’s been trickling in is even less, topping out at around 15-20%) so for someone who needs to halve their weight it’s only getting them part of the way there.

Additionally they work by mucking with one’s metabolism so the patient wouldn’t feel hungry. That only helps people who are overweight due to overeating. Tons of people have undiagnosed health issues that muck with their weight, and we all know the systemic challenges related to healthcare access and access to diagnosis and treatment, especially with how doctors tend to treat to patients who are minorities, female, overweight or any combination of the above.

Also most patients are not able to keep the weight off after stopping semiglutide treatment, even in studies where participants were simultaneously given personalized diet and exercise guidance and switched to a placebo treatment, as soon as treatment was stopped the weight returned.

These new semiglutide treatments are incredible and are allowing people to lose weight more successfully and more effectively than they might have ever been able to, but they aren’t the entire solution to the obesity epidemic.

If you want to learn more, I highly recommend this episode of the Maintenance Phase podcast for more details (transcript and sources also available!)

I’m a pretty healthy person. I work out regularly, this summer biked up to 8 very hilly miles every day and I’ve been actively reducing sugar in my diet. It’s nice to let loose for holidays and indulge in more sugary and savory foods than you normally would. It’s part of the fun of holidays.

Also stop fat shaming. There’s a million and one reasons for people to be fat and there’s a million and one reasons for people to be thin. Would you judge less if you knew your super skinny cousin was only skinny because he starves himself and purges after the pendulum swing back and he binges? Or that your fat aunt was fighting with an idiot rhumotologist who insists the tests he ran that indicate an autoimmune disease which also causes weight gain don’t indicate that same autoimmune disease? Or how about a fat uncle who only eats one meal a day, tons of salads, walks multiple miles but never sees his weight change no matter what? Or your grandmother who periodically goes into an expensive commercial starvation diet so close to the edge you aren’t allowed to excercise in order to lose weight?

These are all real experiences of people I know, and I know these experiences because I stopped to listen instead of jumping to judgment. Of all of the people I know who struggle with either gaining or losing weight I only know 2 people who found changing their diet actually affected their weight

Its more like your shoe size…it doesnt change throughout your life.

Actually for some people it does. Especially through pregnancy

Am I the only one who still thinks the Wii is pretty futuristic feeling? C’mon you wave a controller around without pressing any buttons and shit on the screen moves that’s wild!

Open VPN config file. Basically its a text file with all of the information your client will need to know how to connect to the VPN server

I interpreted it as the resume shows your experience while the cover letter shows you know how to write coherently (plus gives you an opportunity to clarify anything on your resume)

A friend showed me their workflow for piracy and it’s really incredible just how easy it all is. Literally just download an OVPN config from whatever VPN provider you subscribe to, connect to the VPN and search in qbittorrent (and use the link in qbittorrent to download the necessary search plugins)

Like obviously this is a few decades of software refinement, legal battles plus a fair amount of large companies turning a blind eye to the obvious. So it’s shoulders of giants and all but it’s still kinda jarring

This is particularly American sensibility about not drinking alcohol casually around children

Shockingly this will vary by family. Some families take their kids bar hopping while they drink to excess, some drink casually and not in excess, and some are sober around their kids, and some remain sober all the time. My wife grew up hanging out in bars with her parents biker friends and their kids. She learned to watch some of them and save the good homemade wine when someone was about to topple. I grew up with parents who would have a single drink with dinner one to two times a week and would avoid getting drunk (at least that I know of).

Personally, as a parent and living in an area with a strong alcohol culture and with alcoholic family members, I drink very rarely (the alcoholic family members really kill my desire to drink), and when I do I make sure we have more than enough adults available to parent and drive if needed. I also am very much a lightweight so there is no drinking without getting noticeably giggly and sloppy. My wife feels and acts similarly but is not a lightweight and can realistically drink one drink and be visibly unaffected.

I honestly think the OP is less about the presence of alcohol around children but more just calling out a wine mom as such