It’s not about being better. It’s different.
You’ve come here asking for advice. Myself and others have given you some. It’s up to you to take what you find useful and disregard what you don’t. None of us know the full situation.
Let us know what you end up doing and how it goes though, I’m interested and I’m sure at least a few others would be as well.
A lot of people need to be right all the time, even if it is to their own detriment. Therefore they would see apologising as losing.
Social cohesion is quite important and I believe something that is becoming a little undervalued. Especially in a workplace. While of course if is important to stick to your principles, it’s not that important to be right in a lot of social situations.
Relationships aren’t linear progression. Sometimes you move forward, sometimes you move backwards. Sometimes you can move forward by moving backwards. An apology rarely hurts in the grand scheme of things.
However I would think about what you’re saying. And what I’m about to say carries the lack of context from not knowing any more than what you posted.
You weren’t listening and it was mostly your fault (your words). She didn’t trigger you. And telling her she triggered you will probably not go well. You reacted to her in a way you are now regretting. You need to take responsibility for that and that is likely what you are apologising for.
The conversation about things being fair, save it for later. Put a lot more thought into it.
It’s not big in an overall area sense but it’s so dense that it can feel massive. Kamurocho from the Yakuza/Like a Dragon games. Seeing it evolve over 20 years in real time and about 35 years in game time has gotten me quite attached too. Each new game I do a loop to check what has changed and see if old friends are still there.
Bonus with having so much in game time in it is that since it’s essentially just Kabukicho in Tokyo, all that in game exploring translates to the real world pretty well.
Correct. GTA3 had Liberty City which was spread over 3 islands. It was essentially New York so no real countryside but there was one part that was a bit greener.
I’ve never been in that situation but I wouldn’t rule it out on principle.
There is the classic advice of “listen to understand, don’t listen to respond”. You are a lot more likely to understand what the other party is saying when you’re paying attention and aren’t preoccupied with formulating your own response.
Also, remember why you are having the talk. You aren’t trying to “win”.
Stickerbrush Symphony from Donkey Kong Country 2