Rewording it doesn’t really help.

Old adage…People don’t want choices, they want what they want.

Every time you ask a question you lose a chunk of your audience. With something like lemmy, they want to look at messages and respond. Let them do that. Encourage them to choose an instance later, when they’re equipped to make that choice.

Yes that’s a hard problem with federation… mastodon went for a default instance as a solution. There are likely better ones but that’s a problem lots of people are working on.

You just need to setup webfinger to do it I think. I couldn’t get it to work properly though… possibly it’s broken.

Same here. Just this morning trying sync instead.

Month or so… It isn’t growing much, seems to be quite aggressive in its pruning of old stuff.

Being lemmy it’s all docker, but the base OS is debian.

Lemmy is actually quite light… My lemmy VM is currently using only 317MB of the 1GB I’ve allocated it, and about half of a 16GB disk.

Obviously I’m not subscribing to every possible group there… only a dozen or so… but I could go a lot bigger without it becoming a problem.

TBH I’d use the celeron and get a bigger RAM stick in there (cheap), and you’ll be fine for a 1 person instance.