• CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
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    8 months ago

    I never understood how people get so stuck in-denial, I mean ask yourself, is there really something so wrong with being a girl. Really what is so bad abut that to you that you’ll intentionally and repeatedly deny who you are to yourself? I wish you luck sis and I hope you can come out to yourself and be happy one day.

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        8 months ago

        This person is clearly in-denial, I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t be anything, it’s just obvious they aren’t entirely cis if you catch my drift.

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            8 months ago

            Don’t compare cracking someone’s egg to conversion therapy, they are not the same, cracking people’s eggs saves lives, it frees them from denial and allows them to be happy as their authentic self. Conversion therapy tries to force people deeper into denial. This is such a rotten and transphobic argument.

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              8 months ago

              You are not the arbiter of who is or is not trans. You are free to help someone come to the realization that they may be trans, but do not invalidate their identity in the process.

              Gender expression is a spectrum, and just because someone isn’t 100% gender conforming doesn’t automatically make them trans.

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                8 months ago

                It is not invalidating their identity it is helping discover who they really are, helping them come out of the egg and break the denial that prevents them from being their most legitimate selves.

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                  8 months ago

                  It is not invalidating their identity it is helping discover who they really are

                  Literally indistinguishable from transphobe rhetoric.

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            8 months ago

            Any conservatives seeing this thread are having all of their conspiracy theories validated.

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          8 months ago

          In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

          And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

          • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
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            8 months ago

            No I said we aren’t femboys, we are women. If someone claims to be a boy and dresses fem it’s clear they aren’t entirely cis, if they were such act would give them unbelievable gender dysphoria and discomfort.

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              8 months ago

              This is a meme about trans women, please don’t conflate us with femboys.

              Sounds for me like:

              “femboys exist, but we are not the same”; not “femboys do not exist. They’re just in denial”

              (and I do agree with the first; not with the second)

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              8 months ago

              You just singlehandedly invalidated the gender identity of every cis drag queen. That’s impressive.

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      Sure, you can jump gender if you feel like it, but you’re replying to a person who transcended those silly boundaries without immediately constraining themselves to a different one. I suspect they are next level happy.

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        7 months ago

        They are constraining themselves to a gender though, they’re stuck in the idea that they have to be a man because they were born male. That’s not true though, people can be a woman regardless of what they were born as. They say they’re happy now but they would be so much happier if they stopped limiting themselves and realized they can live comfortably as a woman.