Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.

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    I was sexually/otherwise abused by my mother for most of my life. When I brought it up to family, I was basically told to shut up about it/“go to therapy.” They spent thousands torturing me in troubled teen facilities, and provided me with nothing for college (which I paid for with multiple jobs and sex work.)

    I will never own a house. I spent almost two years after my divorce to just be able to afford an apartment. My family has never valued me - I will not give them the comfort they denied when it is the end. My entire life has been a hell.

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      5 days ago

      My family tells me “write a book then I will read it” and I just keep thinking:
      Assholes, maybe instead just listen to me when I tell my stories you want to ignore so badly.
      They couldn’t even be bothered to spend thousands on me though and more than once in my life I have just been dropped off at street corners with hopes that I would disappear from their lives.

      It sucks. While I may not know you, I know similar pain and know it’s never easy. I hope you find comforts in the little things around you.

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      6 days ago

      Ouch. I’m sorry to hear that. Wish I could offer you better help than, condolences and understanding from the other side of the internet.