• YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
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    Forty was fine. I didn’t feel old at all and was in a decent place mentally. I’m now 49, and I have a feeling 50 is going to be somewhat jarring. It just feels undeniably mature.

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    I’m like one of the youngest millenials… Still a long way to go thank you very much!

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      Right? Im part of the youngest millenials and i turn 30 in a few months. Its been a fucking wild experience being stuck between two generations.

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      30 in a couple months, not ready but at least I got a house so I can feel mildly like I have my shit together.

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    Gen x’er here, weren’t y’all like starting things in 1981…wouldn’t that make you comingup on a different decade? (I’ll take my rotten tomatoes now, high velocity please)

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    Most of the Millenials I know have even already the scary 50 approaching from behind.

    But that’s some kind of observation bias, as I am GenX and interestingly know almost no people born between 1990 and 2000.

    But I know a bunch of GenZ again who currently look like deer with big, wide open eyes at the approaching headlights of the “30” truck, which imho is much worse than the 40…

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        Yeah 30s were like “oh I’ve got people that depend on me now so I can’t just fuck off and do whatever I want all day.”

        40s are like “Oh shit, why does this hurt? It’s permanent?!”

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      Most people you know are not “millennials”, 1976 is not even close to a millennial birthdate lmfao

      At some point, every person born in the 20th century while be classified as a millennial.

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        Most people you know are not “millennials”

        Where did I say that?

        I only stated that the Millennials I know are of the pre-1990 type, and these totally exist.
        (Hello, my beloved Millennial-wife, if you happen to read this! :-) )

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        I am now working at a place in our company that is prime starting point for a lot of university graduates. Most of them were born around 2000 and are now in their mid- to end twenties.
        So correct, I also know a couple of people born slightly before 2000, did some slight rounding there.

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        pretty much how bashir in ds9 sums it up, its half-way through middle age already as he claimed when had his 30th birthday

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        As Gen-X, I can confirm that 30 is far more traumatic than 40.

        I totally agree.

        When turning 40, I had much to much going on (family stuff really taking up speed, buying own flat,…) that I didn’t give a shit.

        30 on the other hand, with me still without a long-term partnership and just continuing living my old student bachelor’s life, felt like a huge thing, triggering profound eleventh-hour-panic.

        I think that the dates have shifted as typical family foundation has moved from the late teens or early twenties to around 30.
        This also means that 50 might be the new 40 (A fact that I can confirm by now), marking a new phase in life as 40 maybe did in former times.

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          I have nothing going on in my late 30s. Feels like my life is stagnant. Can’t afford shit except to slave away to live paycheck to pay check.

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          I remember seeing a research thing showing that mid to late 20s was the average time people started to get married. But keep in mind, that’s average. And as soon as you’re any flavor of queer or there’s conflict near you (like war) throw those numbers out the window.

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            Yes, especially wars also tend to seriously disturb family planning.

            My grandparents all were around 30 on my fathers side and even older on my mothers side when they became parents.
            Reason for that: WWII happened…

            Before and after the wars, numbers were significantly different. My mother was nineteen when I was born in the mid 70s. But that also was around the time when that started to change in our country, triggered by the more widespread availability of contraceptives and an increase of women’s education level.

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            That’s just the bloating in your stomach.
            When you turn 30, you develop this incredibly urge to start eating lots of beans, commonly marking the transition to being an old man with the obligatory old man habits.

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                As someone living in a country with an increasing overaging problem (current birthrate per woman: 1,35 children…), I see this happening in realtime, and I can tell you it is really not a good thing.

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          Found a strange, single, long hair growing off my chin the other day. I’m a woman in my mid-30s with no tendencies toward facial hair whatsoever.

          It reminded me of when I was working in a nursing home, and such hairs would just appear, already over an inch long, on patients’ faces. It was as if they sprouted overnight.

          It was a disturbing moment to find one on myself. But hey, it was still my natural color and the length made it easy to pluck. So, can’t complain. Yet.

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            I’ve noticed there’s a thing where our brains filter out fine details, especially in mirrors. When I have a lot of time to pluck and want to try to get everything, you can sway left-right in the mirror to try to add a kind of dither, visually, and that helps see stuff you wouldn’t, otherwise. However, knowing this is terrifying because then you start seeing all kinds of stuff that other people probably see that you normally don’t and now I wanna die. So, use this knowledge with caution.

            That’s my theory for old people with sudden face hair. Not that it grows, but it’s hard to see.

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      Well now at least you can say you know of me, I have 4 years left before 40.

      Those of us in the second half of millennial aren’t that different than the first half, the biggest difference is things like YouTube and Facebook were high school things for us instead of college things.

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      My parents started referring to me as “middle-aged” when I was like 35 specifically because they knew it would drive me nuts. And with the current trajectory of American life expectancy, the math might actually bear them out.

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    Reminder that your generation contains all the best and worst of humanity, like other generations, and is not a like collective.